Many modern couples don’t give roses anymore on Valentines’ Day. In this economy, it must be hard to find a $30-80+ bouquet to be reasonable since it’s inedible and it wilts away. But it makes me sad to say, I’m jealous of the girls that still get roses.
I’ve dated my boyfriend for almost four years now but I’ve never received flowers from him. We’re a fairly conservative couple, we like to go to the grocery store when there’s a sale on our favorite chicken breasts and steaks. I even told him once,
“I don’t like receiving flowers, especially if it’s a symbol of our love. It wilts away and we end up throwing it all away.”
Okay, so I regret saying this now because I’ve never gotten a flower. A lot of girls say this, boys. I know a couple of my friends that believe in this concept, too. But check this out, there’s a way to solve this problem! Here are the highlights of our “problem”:
- Bouquets are expensive
- Flowers, a symbol of love, wilts
- Fresh Roses are so cliché!
Our solution:
Get a baby rose bush!
They are extremely easy to take care of (water it once every couple of days, shaded sunlight worked for me), it won’t wilt if you treat it with love (the same love you have burning brightly for your significant other), and it’s pretty inexpensive. I got mine at the farmers’ market for just $10.
So if you’re broke and still love someone, go out there and show them some love. Water this for them as long as you’re together, maybe even plant this in your garden when you get a home together. You’ll always remember you have each other. <3
Happy Valentines’ Day everyone!
Puke Rainbows.
I will tell you how my valentine’s day went out…
I bought a seven roses, one for each day of the week as a symbol of the endless path in which I want to be her company; and a bouquet of chocolates as dark as the night, carved with her name.
When I was a kid my dad showed me the engagement ring he gave to my mother, he said it was very expensive and I should only let 1 girl see it, then give it to my son.
And thinking about it, would it be romantic to propose a girl on a day when everyone’s celebrating luv? heheh…
So I went home and upstairs on my rooftop having the sincere stars as witnesses and the ring in my hands, I allowed my feelings go out their cage stored in my heart where they were writhing in an unbearable agony for months and burned the roses down expecting them to extinguish their flames with my tears, while devouring the taste of loneliness with the chocolates she’ll never get because she’s already wearing a ring on her taken finger.
;D
So… you’re jealous because you dont get roses from a boy you asked not to get them from? And you have spend 4 years already with a boy that have not abandoned you?
Perhaps you should reconsider the term of whats romantic and whats not, for many girls who gets letters and roses everyday, they would kill for an opportunity like yours.
Well sorry, my answer was too paranoic, more on topic If I remember correctly the more roses you give to a girl the more you love her or something like that. But its all symbolic, just like art, you can even give trash to a person and say you do it because everything else suck compared to them. xD You have to understand the reason they do, and if he havent give you roses because you asked him not to, maybe he’s really interested in please you.
I’m jealous because I think flowers are pretty and artistic, not because I need them for our “romance”. I don’t expect to be “abandoned” and he doesn’t either. Because he hasn’t abandoned me, that makes him the better person? I don’t agree with that. A relationship if a mutual feeling, it’s not about how long it lasts but the time you’ve spent together.
I don’t want a dozen roses, or seven, even just one would make me happy. I’ve never said roses is a simple of romance in my relationship, they’re not even my favorite flower. But to my surprise, he got a me a dozen pink roses yesterday… it was like a dream, like he read my mind because I know he doesn’t read my blog. I was very happy.
I’ve always known we’re very in love together, and very happy. We always try to please one another, I don’t need roses to tell me that. No one is better from not “abandoning” one another.
Sigh. I was just an idiot.
Perhaps you weren’t directing that misunderstanding at me, I apologize.
“I’m jealous because I think flowers are pretty and artistic, not because I need them for our “romance”.”
then why didnt you just bought the roses? You necessary needed him to give them to you, so you relate them to your “romance” very strongly.
“I don’t expect to be “abandoned” and he doesn’t either. Because he hasn’t abandoned me, that makes him the better person?”
Oh you say that because he have not abandoned you…. yet. Of course I am not saying he will do it or anything; actually I think its easier to find long relationships when you are older, and you must be 23 by now, happy Vday btw. I dont think roses are artistical when you give them because other people does it too or they raise you to think it’s supose to be done, in my country its something very common that a guy gives roses to girls, the first time I gave a rose to a girl was because I was in luv with her and I thought it would be amazing, it was also the first time I was rejected because she threw it in the trash can hahah, so I supose I should have tried something different, but I guess art is a very subjective term so if you find them artistic for just being something from the nature that everyone gives… well I must admit its hard for me to see them as art, and I also admit that I must sound rude to you by the way you replied to me… so I am sorry, I am glad you got your roses, really, you’re very attached to luv, and it must have felt inspirational, the thoughts in your mind must have brought amazing ideas that you’ll probably enjoy in the future, or you’ll just remember about it to delight with your life. Or perhaps you dont care about those above and you just enjoy your life in the simplest way possible, so it doesnt matter to you how long you last with a person, nor it does if he’s or not willing to please you in whatever whim you have.
Whatever way the case is, I am not the kind of person who lectures on how people must be, I enjoy seeing different types of people and a lot of different kind of things. But your concept of romance differs from mine, just the fact that you’re together with a person the way you told him to be, is reason enough to be considered romantic, and if it lasts long when you’re both in luv it’s romantic, roses by themselves are not romantic. I consider myself a romantic person because I hold ideals I strongly believe in, and I am devouting my life to live by them even when they are not accepted by the rest of the world. That’s kinda closer to the real meaning of what romance is.
You give roses to your mother, friends, to the people you feel attracted to, to the people who dies, in most religions you give roses to what you worship, and it is also possibly to throw roses to those you admire when you are enjoying their art expressions during a show. So roses are kind of a symbol of affection in a sense.
And looking for information about why people gives roses I found out about this webpage:
http://www.loveletterbox.com/meaning_of_roses.htm
In there it says what I thought before, that about the more you give the more you care about the person, tho its funny, if you give origami roses made with 100 dollar bills it would mean you are throwing your money away, and your time too, its also funny that people gives more importance to money than to these feelings. But it doesnt matter, I also found some other information:
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/10/28/why-men-should-give-women-flowers/
xDDDDDDDD
loooool awesome!!!
but well there are other ways to show affection to a person, like spending a lot of time with them, because if you do it means you really care.
Enjoy your relationship, at least now you have no more reasons to feel jealous. But I do have more reasons to feel jealous of you, you are with the boy you say you are in luv with for some years, you are an amazing artist, you know japanese and you are also rich. But I have something you dont have, I have the creation kit of skyrim and you wouldnt ever try that cuz that’s for freaks. ;D
wow you replied me that when I was redacting this box of text. If you felt scared that I was going to stop reading you if you was too honest with me, dw, xD I am sincere most of the time.
So no need to apologize. Nekopon. I am very glad you had a wonderful day yesterday, it cheers me up that people “I know” (<..> …. <.<) lives experiences like that.
… I sincerely apologized because I know I was feeling overwhelmed and I overstated my feelings. I’ve been having a bad day.
I don’t think the act of giving roses is artistic but the roses, the flowers themselves, are artistic. There’s no point in buying it for myself because I think that’s just weird…How should I explain this… I think I wanted to receive it from him because he would think I would do something artistic with the roses but I don’t feel the act of giving roses is romantic… I wonder if that makes sense? Haha, just realizing that my thought process is pretty complex.
I don’t think I’ve really enjoyed giving roses to anyone before but I have folded hundreds of origami cranes before to show my love.
Oh, I’m not rich either. Not at all…
But I’m very happy you’ve been very honest with me and I actually enjoy listening to your point of view. I hope to learn more about your ideas. :)
Ok, understood, but I am letting you know that because I shared this entry on my facebook thinking it would help more people know about it, and it must feel embarrasing for you that some people enters on this blog to read something interesting and they see a debate about whether roses are art or not, and about being abandoned by a romantic person who gives wilting roses.
(well not really, I must admit your thoughts are very confusing to me, but that’s what happens when you try to understand girls, they’re all confusing, I managed to understand one once and it was a mess xD, I better try to understand you like an artist instead, and like one I can see you define art as something beautiful, even when its not made by a person. I see it the opposite, the act of giving a rose and expressing your luv to someone is closer to art than the rose itself, unless its a rose somehow made by you. We wont come to an agreement because that’s just how art works, but I respect your vision.
Oh you know origami!!! if there was a way to make origami figures with printed designs they would look amazing, I was trying to do that after I saw some papercraft figures, I think the concept of papercraft is similar to origami but requires more patience and skill, it must be very rewarding and amazing to build one.)
Well take care, and dont say that you’re an idiot because you are not you’re actually a smart artist, but you’re also a sensitive person, and that’s a good thing. ;D
oh and when I said not really I meant I didnt not understand you very well, this was indeed shared on facebook.